About a month after my now fiancé and I started dating, we were on the phone one night when he got really quiet. I asked him what was wrong and he said, “I just don’t understand how a beautiful, godly, single woman like you would be interested in a guy like me.” I proceeded to ask him what that even meant, so he answered, “You’re pure, but I have this dirty stain on me that I can’t get off.” My heart sank when I heard those words come out of his mouth because I knew he was referring to his divorce, so I asked him, “What’s the point of the cross?” All I heard was a sigh of relief, followed by him saying, “You have no idea how much that simple statement just did for me.”

One day when I was on Twitter I scrolled past a tweet that had been “Retweeted” and “Liked” by multiple people, specifically girls. I bet you can guess what it said by the title of this post. The tweet read, “I’d rather be single than date online.”

My initial reaction was to get defensive (those of you who know me know that I met my fiancé online). Then I realized that I probably would have been one of the people who retweeted and liked that post not even a year ago. I quickly realized that my defensiveness is caused by my own insecurity about what people think.